1. Abraham is depicted as being the pillar of 'Chesed' in the world. Every
detail about his life is another aspect illustrating the Torah's living
lesson of this Sefirotic trait . 'Chesed' is about overflow, going beyond
limits, unconditional loving and selfless giving to others.

2. G-d's directive to Abraham at the beginning of the Parsha, are the 2
words 'Lech Lecha' that sum up the whole Parsha. G-d is telling Abraham,
'Since you're leaving behind your good name or fame, your livelihood and
your home which gives you the stability to give birth and raise
progeny - therefore I'll compensate all your losses and offer you the
directive of 'Lech Lecha' - [which literally means go for yourself or go to
yourself or in our case as Rashi points out 'Go for your own good and
benefit']. The rest of the Parsha describes Abraham's recovering his losses
described above.

3.The question that should scream out at you is this, 'If Abraham is the
world's pillar of selfless giving to others, then why is the
beginning-hallmark-challenge of his life all about selfishness; 'TO GO FORTH
FOR HIMSELF AND FOR HIS OWN GOOD'? In other words why or how does a life of
selflessness base itself on a foundation of seeming selfishness?!

4.The answer is found in an understanding of the Divine Template of the
personality as taught by the Kabbalistic explanation of the Sefirot. The
highest or innermost motivator of the psyche is called 'Keter.' One aspect
of Keter is all about being guided by Hashem. This naturally gives rise to
another Keter trait [the 2nd deepest motivator of the psyche] which is being
in sync with oneself. Only afterwards does the rest of the actualizing of
the personality 'kick in" - which includes selfless giving to others.
In summary, first comes a Divine directive to maximize ME and only afterwards
a selfless giving to others [Chesed].

5. The tool is called 'Holy Selfishness Fusion'

A. First contemplate or meditate some upcoming situation where you have the
opportunity to do Chesed with others. Visualize it in all of it's fine
detail and notice what parts of the experience you feel stronger or weaker in.

B. Now energize yourself with 'Holy Selfishness' by plugging in to your
strongest personality traits such as perhaps humor, love, humility or
leadership... etc... Next bring Hashem into this experience by noticing that
in addition to making everything happen while you're in your
strong-personality-trait - 'ZONE', also Hashem is enabling you to do all that
you do and accomplish down to the last detail.  If you visualize this
carefully, you'll feel that you're doing your own thing and at the same
time you’re being infinitely empowered!

C. Now go back to your original interpersonal scenario with your new
supercharged 'Holy Selfishness' & notice the difference. The goal is to act
this out in reality and for that matter to supercharge all your other acts
of Chesed!

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